misunderstanding

It is interesting to see how two close friends, are having not so good feeling towards each others just because of clashing of belief and personality~

We place "who is at fault" judgment too quickly and too easily without the effort of thinking on the other side of the shoe, while at the same time we ask people to think of ours. Even when we try to look from the other side of the shoe, we tend to look from our perspective! Guess, this is human after all, this is the limit we could reach.

There will never be the "fault" side when it comes to argument that involve two different personalities, view of the worlds, and beliefs because it is always right for both parties, or more than two if involve more than two (duh)~ Mainly because there are nothing to argue about! Unless we want to consciously persuade others that our idea/belief/personality is better, then by all means, go ahead and create a world war 3~

Leave the other human alone if you do not like his/her style/belief/personality

or

Accept who he/she really is, and live with it~

or

Tell he/she about what different between our style/belief/personality and respect each others difference and live with it~

or

Go and change that poor human and shape it into you! (bwahahaha)

or

Others ____

XD Human Human Human~ what interesting being we are~ (that's why I love psychology~ *wink*)

ps: to you-know-who, I do understand your point of view on that matter~ no worries, it just contradicted with my belief, that's all~ ^^

harlo....?

Is my voice really REALLY that soft...?

When I speak and no people reply is it really REALLY because I can't be heard??

Really...?

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Guessed so....

(I thought I am pretty loud d... *sigh*)

a note to BH

Dearest BH,

hey, it's time to move on, okay? U've been holding to the past for waaaay too long, it is time for you to put it down and move forward from your safety net. *pat* At least you have me accompanying you if you fail again, ^^ stay strong for you still have me.

Gorgan

friends

someone asked me this question:

"why didn't you introduce your other friends to us geh?"

Hmm... yeahor... why...?

language

Another sad discovery...

I am super bad at language, words, grammar, expressing my thought and feeling!

WOOT

Relate

I've noticed something today while studying...

I've never really relate myself to anyone.

I enjoy the accompaniment of others, I enjoy accompanying others, I care for them and stuff, but I never really open myself to them...

Mainly because I did it to myself too...

What a sad discovery I've made today! woot

The Blaming game

Blame, by itself is already something that will cause a bad ending to anyone. When someone blame another, it often include element of judging the person and often, it only make things worse. I experienced first hand, how the power of blaming can destroy someone's life, hmm, maybe not that serious, but how it can really affect the effectiveness of someone and how it battered others esteem.

I guess people are more likely to blame, instead of helping the situation. I guess it is easier for us to unleash out all our judgmental side and start the blaming game because it is somehow, fun when doing so. It definitely require a lot lesser effort compare to trying to empathize another and trying the best to fix the situation.

However, self-blame is as terrible as blaming as well, in fact, to a certain extent, it is more destructive compare to blaming others. When we know what we did are wrong, or should I say, when we perceived that what we did are wrong, most of us tend to blame ourselves, well, at the very least, I know I do; and when we blame ourselves, it often let the self-defeating thoughts get the best of us. We start to focus on the emotions which the blaming bring us and stop taking responsibility on what we do. Thus, whatever action we did after that will often be craps, worsen the situation and of course, our self esteem will definitely dropped to the lowest and there will be a high probability that we will drag people around us down with us. And we start blaming ourselves again! Tadaa~ the cycle goes on without stopping~

*sigh*

Of course, all these are easier said than done, especially asking people not to blame. Even people who claim that they dun blame, occasionally they do, without knowing it. Of course, at least I know I did it~ Lets take responsibility and not blame, whoever, including ourselves regardless of how difficult it is to do so! At least we try not to~ =P

Of course, for those who thinks it is perfectly okay to blame, go and ahead and blame, its always our freedom to choose what we want to believe and do, because with that kinda freedom, we are always in the position to accept all the consequences of our action, be it good or bad~

Interesting

Its always been fun to watch how people respond and what they do when they are chatting, it is more fun and interesting now ever since I have a new hobby~ XD

Maybe this will be my "minor" field of the career I will be taking in the future besides counseling! Muahahhaa~

Life is getting interesting, the bad and the good way~ *wink*

worth

Gorgan: No matter what you say/do to me, think/feel about me, I am still a worthwhile person No matter what you say/do to me, think/feel about me, I am still a worthwhile person No matter what you say/do to me, think/feel about me, I am still a worthwhile person No matter what you say/do to me, think/feel about me, I am still a worthwhile person No matter what you say/do to me, think/feel about me, I am still a worthwhile person No matter what you say/do to me, think/feel about me, I am still a worthwhile person No matter what you say/do to me, think/feel about me, I am still a worthwhile person

Boon Han: Yea right... admit it, you are still a baby who needs approval from others...

Gorgan: =3=

Boon Han: See... proven!

Confidence

I want to be more confident I want to be more confident I want to be more confident I want to be more confident I want to be more confident I want to be more confident I want to be more confident I want to be more confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident I am confident...

Its not working... LOL

white side

Oh no... my mind is asking me to change side...

From dark side to the white side!!!!

T_T darn!

walls

Am i having another puberty? XD seriously?!

I used to put walls around me, emotionally, and mentally, it went, quite well, maybe I got emo and did affect people around me, but never intentionally hurt them.

Lately, I could see that those walls around my emotion realm is not as strong, and the confidence is finally something I can relate with, but, there are side effects. More and more feelings are coming out, including anger. Getting more and more impatient with things happening around me. Seriously, I really hate myself doing this.

Then stop doing what I am doing! Yea right... well, needs better anger and other emotion management, and seriously I gotta do something about my sense of remorse! XD

Weee~ another laladididudu post~ XD

shout

You shouted at me...

I hate ppl who shout at me...

Especially shouting over matters which I dun intentionally do it, or something I can't even control...

^^

family

Family... The idea of family is interesting.

You hate and love them at the same time.

You want to let them know and plan to hide everything bout you from them at the same time

You want to be in and want to be out of the family at the same time

You enjoy and not enjoy the time you spend with them at the same time

You know and not know them at the same time

Family...

A human group dynamic that have 2 ends, where both positive and negative exist!