Wednesday, May 09, 2007

Love

Love, who am i to post this anyway? Well, just want to share my thought about it.

To me, i kind of categorize this love into a few categories:-
1. God's love
2. Love among Brothers and Sisters
3. Family love
4. Special one's love
5. Friends love
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6. Love towards other human

In this post, i might be sharing my thought about special friend's love. What is this? Well, if you are thinking of Bf Gf relationship's love, then you are right! Gratz.

So, what is this love, what attracts two opposite sex to be together again after a period of Gender War between each others? (To those who studied Psychology, you might know what i am referring to. Haha). As we are growing up, we tend to grow mentally too. We might want to belong to a particular person, or being loved by someone. But the problem is, when we aren't mentally matured, we don't really understand what is matured love. All we know is, puppy love. Love in secondary school is always, known as puppy love. Why is it so? Isn't being together with someone is called love? Aren't love suppose to be happy and joyful? For those who are in love that are enjoying it, get together because the "feel" is there without much consideration of the future, you guys might want to think about it.

In a relationship, there is more than love and enjoy. Personally experience it. After sweet for few months, according to my friends, a lot of them broke up because only by then they noticed that both of their personality are not suitable. Why is it so? Lack of patience maybe? Lack of understanding before they start a relationship? Lack of communication skill? Or even lack of matured love?!

You see, in my opinion, love someone, need a lot of patience, commitment and honestly. Not to forget forgiveness, understanding, self-less thinking and sincerity. Without this, two humans will still can be together as a couple but their relationship might not stay long, and even if it does, the happiness is only can be seen on the surface, deep inside their heart, there is no real peace. Amen? Amen to me!

And all this, is not easily understand or easily be done by many humans. We are weak, no? And back to puppy love, they just want to feel good without considering these things! "As long as we are happy, and that is enough", I am sure for those people who are reading this, some of them kinda have this kind of thinking. But sorry that i have to say, this won't work! Loving someone needs A Lot Of effort and thinking! Like what i have mentioned above, if true matured love doesn't exist in a relationship, it won't last long, and the sweet period will be over really quick. After that, are sour, bitter and spicy... A couple that is in love without matured love might seems happy and sweet on the surface, but we doesn't know what kind of mentally pain or emotional struggling they are facing. Itz like the mighty sea, it might seems peaceful on the surface, but deep down the sea, the wave is very strong and wild!!!

In conclusion, (Gosh, am i writing an essay or a speech?!?!), before we say "yes" "letz start dating", do consider about those commitment that we must have in a relationship. A relationship is meant for marriage, is meant for long term and its a beautiful thing, don't make it ugly.


A quotation from Bible : "4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

1 comment:

leo+evans said...

Hi boon han,u must be suprised tat i leave comment on ur blog,rite?haha..
welcome me wif both arm,k?hehe..
anyway,i juz wanna said,i do agree wif ur opinions bout love..
without mature love in a relationship,it's very hard to go through hard time 2gether after the sweet period..
being 2gether nt only love,bt honesty,promises,loyalty,etc..
okla,dun hav 2 say it long..
ur points had elaborated it well..^^
wish u well..