Love

Love, who am i to post this anyway? Well, just want to share my thought about it.

To me, i kind of categorize this love into a few categories:-
1. God's love
2. Love among Brothers and Sisters
3. Family love
4. Special one's love
5. Friends love
-Close
-Normal
6. Love towards other human

In this post, i might be sharing my thought about special friend's love. What is this? Well, if you are thinking of Bf Gf relationship's love, then you are right! Gratz.

So, what is this love, what attracts two opposite sex to be together again after a period of Gender War between each others? (To those who studied Psychology, you might know what i am referring to. Haha). As we are growing up, we tend to grow mentally too. We might want to belong to a particular person, or being loved by someone. But the problem is, when we aren't mentally matured, we don't really understand what is matured love. All we know is, puppy love. Love in secondary school is always, known as puppy love. Why is it so? Isn't being together with someone is called love? Aren't love suppose to be happy and joyful? For those who are in love that are enjoying it, get together because the "feel" is there without much consideration of the future, you guys might want to think about it.

In a relationship, there is more than love and enjoy. Personally experience it. After sweet for few months, according to my friends, a lot of them broke up because only by then they noticed that both of their personality are not suitable. Why is it so? Lack of patience maybe? Lack of understanding before they start a relationship? Lack of communication skill? Or even lack of matured love?!

You see, in my opinion, love someone, need a lot of patience, commitment and honestly. Not to forget forgiveness, understanding, self-less thinking and sincerity. Without this, two humans will still can be together as a couple but their relationship might not stay long, and even if it does, the happiness is only can be seen on the surface, deep inside their heart, there is no real peace. Amen? Amen to me!

And all this, is not easily understand or easily be done by many humans. We are weak, no? And back to puppy love, they just want to feel good without considering these things! "As long as we are happy, and that is enough", I am sure for those people who are reading this, some of them kinda have this kind of thinking. But sorry that i have to say, this won't work! Loving someone needs A Lot Of effort and thinking! Like what i have mentioned above, if true matured love doesn't exist in a relationship, it won't last long, and the sweet period will be over really quick. After that, are sour, bitter and spicy... A couple that is in love without matured love might seems happy and sweet on the surface, but we doesn't know what kind of mentally pain or emotional struggling they are facing. Itz like the mighty sea, it might seems peaceful on the surface, but deep down the sea, the wave is very strong and wild!!!

In conclusion, (Gosh, am i writing an essay or a speech?!?!), before we say "yes" "letz start dating", do consider about those commitment that we must have in a relationship. A relationship is meant for marriage, is meant for long term and its a beautiful thing, don't make it ugly.

A quotation from Bible : "4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

Don't know what i want...

Frustration... Anger... Useless... Upset... All these, are me now. I know it is wrong to do so, but i can't deny that i felt these. Why is it so? I don't know, do i? Its all started when she called. Every time we chat, there are sure a lot of silence between the conversation. I am the one who is cracking my damned useless brain to think of something to chat. To find event to talk about. Is this normal?

I am an introverted person, maybe not as introverted as her, but, can both introverted be together? It is okay for me not to chat and just hang out with her, but when I did so, she complain that we don't chat much. Chatting is important in understanding each other i know, but i did tried my best!! Tried for 1 month plus, and now, i am tired... if i, the one that is trying to find topic, try to maintain the conversation and all she do is just answer what i say, giving me short answer, how can me, a mere human, weak human to overcome it...

Christian or not? A lot people might say this doesn't matter, but, i think it is! If she is a christian, i can really chat with her almost everything! Exchange our faith! Share our thought and stuff... Am i not on the way that You pleased? ... really clueless now.... need advice... ... ...

Choices... YOU ARE THE BOSS NOT PROBLEM

Choices... Got this inspiration from our friendly neighbourhood- Spiderman~ Well, in the movie, Peter mentioned that everyone have choices to make. You can choose A or B or sometimes C.

Let me give u a scenarios, a very basic one: When people steal, rob the bank or kill someone, some people will use these defenses, "I have no choice but to do so!!" "It's not what I want! I have no choice!!". But to think again, aren't we given much choices? Before we actually did something, if we really tried our best and be patient, i am sure there is a way. Lets say accidentally killed someone that we do not intended to kill. What are the choices?
A: COntrol our emotion. Don't let anger control us.
B: Let our anger rule us!! Who cares about consequences? I just want revenge!!
C: Tell them that i am not satisfy of what they have done and try to look for solution...
D: Gah! What ever la~

See, we have choices to choose from!!

What we need is just:
A: effort, A LOT OF effort
B: Patience, which a lot people lack of. And it's hard to maintain it.
C: Think out of the box. Critical thinking. In almost every situation, it is about THINKING right and not FEELING right! Feeling is faulty. Sometimes our downfall is because of this sweet thing called the FEELING.
D: And of course, a lot of experience. You might not be able to do this the 1st time you encounter the situation. You might need to encounter it for few times, some 1, 2, 30, 40 some even takes years to achieve it! Depends on our will.

Okay, this choices thing, actually i mainly want to focus on staying happy. I am sure everyone will face difficulties in their life, at least i did. Sad because no GF, feeling lonely cause not open up enough, angry because get jealous of ones ability, jealous because you didn't do as well as others. Hey, all this is tiring no? But as i mentioned above, we have choice NOT TO suffer!! Just don't let your feeling control you. When you think you are lonely, don't-lah go and listen to music that suit your feeling and make you more lonely!! Go and do something useful, like helping our your mom, reading, mayb "dota-ing" also might help~

Hmm, will post more bout lonely, sad, anger, jealous in my upcoming post ya? so, stay tune~~

LOL

LOL it seems like i abandon this blog~ Or to say i am kinda lazy to post anything?!
Well, nothing much this time, just to tell you guys to be patient and wait for my next post~ Haha. Bout the story thingy~ wait till i really free first only continue bah~ haha Crapping....