Human, as it is

After, or rather throughout my developmental psychology class, I couldn't stop wondering, asking about questions which yields no answer. Allow me to do some explanation to what leads to me wondering and asking about some of these questions.

Today class was all about how critical and crucial is early childhood development is to human that every single event that happened, either good or bad will somehow shaped us - which some of us call personality. At this period, our emotional, psychological, physical, cognitive and behavioral development are depending on how we are being treated by our caregivers (parents). Some children were unfortunate to have parents who weren't aware of it, some parents were misinformed on how to 'perfectly' raise a child, some were just ignorant, but some were fortunate to have parents who knows what to do, when to give attention to the child and knows when is too much for the children. All these factors may influence how the particular child grows into (I am in no position of blaming parents, to be fair, they do not have the 'Bible'/guideline on how to raise a healthy child). The circle then goes on, in most cases, children will normally pickup values and belief system their parents have and apply these systems in life unless during the process of growing up, they learn a different value that could 1) change his systems all together or 2) add the value into the existing systems and improvise it. So basically what I want to convey is whoever you are today, is definitely a 'product' of learning and experiences you have from the past, good or bad. It jolly well applies to other human being which is not you too.

I, then tried to recall on all the observation I have done during all these years, how people around me treat others, how people around me comment on others and how people around me discriminated other, it gave an unpleasant experience/feeling. As a psychology student, and a human being, I totally understand where this Because-you-are-acting/behaving-in-a-way-I-approve/felt comfortable-I-like-hanging-out-with-you and when-you-are-making-me-uncomfortable/weird-I-dislike-you-and-might-trigger-me-to-bully-you-verbally-or-non-verbally reaction. What I do not understand, or rather having difficulty accepting is why judge or react or to someone whom you don't find comfortable in an aversive manner? Someone might looks/sounds stupid and dumb but that doesn't mean he is less human than us, the reason why they are so might because of the experiences he has when he is growing up, might also because when he's just few month old he wasn't really being taken care properly and might be all other sort of reason to his behavior now. Doesn't he at least deserve a chance to be talked to and treated before the judgement of you-are-so-dumb/awkward- that -you-don't-deserve-my-kindness? But what if he is an A**hole, does he even deserve respect? Well, yes, I would say, I mean not to the point that he could do whatever sh*t to you, but at least tell him that you do not like what he is doing to you/others and if he continues, then just leave the situation. We can be angry at him for being unreasonable, but that isn't a reason for us to treat him badly. I am confident that if we sincerely treat everyone nicely, others will notice.

Having said that, I am fully aware that all those being mentioned are me being too simplistic on the issue. Some people might really be beyond reasonable measure that it is impossible to work with or even smile at, but let us all try to hold the judgement card and not throwing it out too early, be nice to others sincerely. Have conflict, but not hatred war.

The 'Extremist"

I always have this feeling about people who are extremely confident in what they are doing, or what they can do and think very highly of themselves. To the extent that they really, honestly believe that they are above others. According to my observation around me, these people normally believe that whatever that does not goes by their logic or rationale, it will always be bad, weird, sucks and every negative word that could associate with it.

It is just how human are being wired I think. To a certain extend, I do believe what I am doing now is no difference than those whom I do not like. The thing is, I have never, or, maybe seldom is the safer word here, seldom hate nor condemn anyone to the core. I don't like the feeling and thought that I can only be in for or against situation. Most people will call me someone who do not have my own opinion or stand. What ever I might be called, I still believe that every person, every concept, every theory, every technology have it's own pros and cons and shouldn't be categorized as totally bad or good. Yes, I found that it's acceptable to like or dislike certain stuff, but not to the extreme that love something that as if it's perfect and the rest are lousy; or hate something to the extent that as if there were no good in it. Yes, this is what I often observed in my life, in social network, in social cycle. *shrugs* We are after all humans I guess, being bias and discriminative is just, normal. (The irony is, while most of us agree that it's not escapable, most of us still tries to fight against being bias and discriminative, wanting equal rights, do not want to be categorized but at the same time categorizing themselves as different from others).

Human, are full with controversy. Including myself.

A new start.

It is really been a very very veeery long time since I updated this blog. To refresh my memory, this blog initially was created so that I could keep my thought "saved" and also if appropriate, giving people some hints into myself, as a person.

It used to keep emotional thoughts, philosophical thoughts, educational thoughts and some rants that I wanted to share (like duh).  However, now that I am back again, I would like to make a new start. Just to update those who doesn't know, I am continue-ing my studies as a postgrad dip student in Psychology and not just that, I have 2 papers on Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) - which in my undergraduate year it's a field that I didn't wanted even step in because I initially thought it's plain boring and impractical! What does taking these ABA papers gonna do with my starting anew motive? Because of the contradictory thoughts and feeling I had when taking these papers together with Critical Qualitative Research - which put subjectivity as the core as oppose to ABA which supported being objectivity as core. Also, like what I mentioned, in psychology, I used to only believe that thoughts and as as feeling is important as it reflect and will to a certain extent influence of behavior. So how can we learn  a new behavior by merely applying classical conditioning or operant conditioning if we are reluctant to do so?

Interestingly, I see both side have their rationale and thought to myself, can someone really survive believing in both camp of thoughts? This is the reason why I started this again. To serve as a journal writing purposes to me. Hopefully at some point, this blog will turn from a personal reflection to a public professional reflection on psychology.

That's all for now, going to darling now! <3 p="">
Gorgan